📭 Reporting to faraway family and friends about the week that was (Series) - Week 20
Guten Tag ❤
We are building our foundation slowly but surely, 3 weeks here in Switzerland. I would love to hear more about the various happenings on your side. Please report back! xxx
We found a suitable Krippe for Isabel. She will start officially in June and before then, Isabel and by extension her mum, are undergoing orientation (similar to daycares in Sao Paulo, one parent is required to stay with the child in the beginning). The first day was intense: I sat on the floor, simply watching Isabel adapt to her new surroundings while occasionally lending my hand*. I made an effort to focus on each moment ,and the moments, involving a play kitchen and 2 baby dolls and a wardrobe, stretched interminably. Still, this mode is preferable vs. untangling a sobbing child from my arms/legs and transferring him to strangers speaking oddly, even if the duration is short at the start (as was the case with Jaime in Luxembourg and Rotterdam).
Jaime, the now veteran who “feels 15” reached a milestone: After wavering a couple of times, he finally braved the throng of rowdy students to climb up the stairs SOLO to his class when the bell promptly rung at 7.55am a few days ago. He no longer needs his bodyguards in the mornings**. 👍This is not a mean feat given the many flights involved and that he is much smaller than the older students. He is also persevering with being bold: seeking help, daily, in German, from taller classmates to bring down his chair (designed for older students) which is not only heavy but placed high up on the desk, beyond his reach.
Time to expedite my plans for some self-care? The advice of “putting the oxygen mask on your face first” is old yet this week I find myself deliberating on this concept and the parameters of "oxygen" given my current dyspnea. Perhaps “oxygen” for some people, including me, goes beyond basic needs to include self fulfillment e.g. sense of belonging, achievement, etc. It seems Maslow’s pyramid may be redrawn to a block of parallel needs and based on this, I should expedite my plans for self-empowering activities to stay alive***. I will report back on my intentions and actions.
* I was reminded of my younger brother’s first week at his Chinese Kindergarten. He was 5 and I was 13. It was his first time ever in an institution. He didn’t speak Mandarin - none of us did! (Or do). He was assigned a desk in the corner and I was allowed to stand next to him during his first week - 4 hours each morning, simply watching him and occasionally offering a hand to hold on to.
** Paving the way for him to walk to-from school alone Swiss style?
*** Ich… dramatisch? Nein! 🤷♀️